Always remember the four square theory

This is the post where I tell my shortcomings (don't i do that too often. May be i should get lighter on me!). So, I had invented this 4 Square theory. See your palm, draw a square. At every corner, there are different entities.

You
Your family
Your spouse
Your society.

What I believe is that if we can all of them separated, we will lead a happy life. Not, that you are not going to be concerned but don't overlap or mix them. Each have their own priority and own time in your life.
For example- Don't mix your spouse and yourself. This will ultimately lead to your huge dependency on him, he will start taking you for granted since you will be available to him 24*7. So, YOU is YOU. Don't mingle your priorities with him. Give him his own space. Don't let your career go haywire because of your spouse. Don't let your dreams die because of society.

This goes without saying that this is a theory and is not applicable 100% in life. But as a principle, take your spouse, your family and your society as different entities in life. Don't mix them up. Especially don't mix them up with YOU that it leads to the death of you.

I know it sounds tricky. But lets try to implement it. Do what you want to do it and at that time don't let the other three squares interfere in your life.

So if you are spending time with your family, don't let your societal pressure ruin your quality time. Keep them separate!
If you are following your dream, don't let the ambitions of your spouse lead to the death of their dreams.
If you are with your friends, don't let the responsibilities of home take a toll on your anyhow-very-less-time-with-friends.

Whatever you do, give your 100%. Involve with people, Enjoy your life with them!

Be Happy!

Shagun